We have all had our moments, when the stress of the endless to-do list, whiny kids and sleepless nights get the best of us and we snap. One of your children is trying to be helpful and is pouring milk for his sister and spills it all over himself and the floor. He has to change, the floor needs mopped and now you need to add 'go to the store' to your already jammed packed day. Not to mention, you are already five minutes late getting the kids to school! The good intentions your child had, go out the window and you snap. You shout louder then you know you should and make your child feel bad, when all he was doing was trying to help. You immediately feel awful you lost your temper, so now what?
I have found it important to be the first to admit when you were out of line, with your family. Children need to learn adults make mistakes too and sometimes we even lose our cool. By apologizing, we are modeling appropriate behavior for our children and teaching them the importance of admitting when we are wrong. We are also showing them we respect them enough to admit to our short comings. Talking about the bad choice you made with your child, also helps start the healing you will need too.
Losing it, is a part of parenting no one likes, but at some time or another its bound to happen. Be the first to admit your wrong doing and learn from your mistake. Remember, there is always Room to Grow!
This is part of a 31 Day series about creating Family Bliss, to read more click here.
*Please note, by losing it, I am referring to shouting at your children, not physically abusing them in anyway, if you feel you can't control your temper, please seek additional help.
I love this series.
ReplyDeleteI try to do this so much and say sorry. I have also made an effort to apologize to my husband in front of my daughter. I think that is making more of a difference than anything else I have tried.
Great post. I grew up in a family where I honestly cannot remember a heartfelt apology ever having been given. As an adult, my pride sometimes makes it hard to admit my shortcomings, but it's something I've made a conscious effort to improve. It's oh-so-important in families, as you say, to model this behavior for our kids.
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